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My dad not liking my chins
« on: May 02, 2009, 06:16:02 PM »

So i'v had a long day today. I'v been trying to put up new shelves in my cage today which hasn't went to well. I'v had to go back up to home depot a few times bc they gave me wrong size washers and what not. I was able to get one shelf up all by myself, which wasn't easy.

But, my day didn't start off good today. I got my dad to turn on the ac last week because it was really hot outside and I was worried for my chins. And he turned it off the other day bc it wasn't as warm outside. I know I don't have my chins in the best spot but its the only place I have room for them in my room. I have there cage under my window. I had my windows open just a tiny bit when my dad came into my room.

He said that I should open them up more. I told him I didn't want to bc my chins could get sick from the draft. He told me that when it got warm outside that he's going to turn on the air for me. ( which is fine bc i'm going to take them to my b/f's them) He also said some other mean things and it really bothered me.

I was so upset about what my dad said that when my mom was helping me measure the shelves I started to cry. She agreed with me that she didn't think that my dad liked my chins.

Just a bit ago my dad said its better to have a pet that comes when you call it and u can pet it. Every time my dad comes in my room he will clap his hands and it scares my chins. I tell him not to. he told me that we have alot of extra wood outside. I told him that they can't have it bc they can only have certin types of woods. he said hes suprized that they are not exstink. ( I know i didn't spell that right)

I was wondering if someone parent or boyfriend/girlfriend or husband or wife has been like that.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #1 on: May 06, 2009, 07:33:17 AM »

My Uncle is like that with our alpacas. He keeps saying that he rather have a horse because they will come to you. He also thinks that they can have any type of food and grass. I was telling him that I needed to get an other bag of grass seed and that it was over 90 bucks and he said just use the grass seed he bought and I told him no I can't it needs to be a special blend of grass :doh:.  He hasn't  said mean words yet!! But he just doesn't get the idea that they need special things you just can't give them stuff like you can a horse. Plus I think if my dad was a live he wouldn't like my chins or the alpacas. Come to think of it my Uncle doesn't even like my cats or my chinchillas. Any thing that has to have special food or doesn't come to you wagging its tail is bad to him.  So hang in there try not to let your dads words bother you.  Shannon
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #2 on: May 06, 2009, 08:11:24 AM »

 ::silly::   ::silly::   ::silly::    For all of you who have family/friends that do not like chinchillas, don't fuss, argue or try to convince them ... just smile at them ... knowing, they are the ones missing out on all the fun, love and laughter chinchillas bring you.    ;) 

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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #3 on: May 06, 2009, 08:33:05 AM »

Oh geesh...I'm so sorry you had such a rotten day...and that your dad's outlook is not as positive as you'ld like. But...I agree with Jo Ann...You can't force them to love the chins...and he's the one actually missing out.

I fortunately...don't have that trouble...My husband goes in and baby talks to the chins...I've even had visitors that will overcome their fear of the snake in our home...to get a glimpse of the chins.

My FIL who is not "animal" lovey...even thought they were the cutest darn things...So...I don't know...I've never experianced what your feeling...Frustrated and hurt for certain...But didn't he just suggest a new cage...for your birthday? Maybe it's his way of trying to tell you he's sorry...in a sense.

As for clapping hands when he enters the chins room...his house and he's the parent it's hard to tell him not to...he sounds stuborn...I think he's trying to get a rise out of you...Try and ignore it...see where it gets him...your calm voice will bring your chins to you...They'll just learn to never trust your dad...which since he's not fond of them...isn't a bad thing.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #4 on: May 06, 2009, 11:16:32 AM »

Thanks everyone. Your right Jo Ann. I do think my dad might be trying ot get a rise out of me. Everyone else that has seen my chins like them. My cousion's kid, hes 2, he likes them alot. He always wants to see pictures of them when I see him. He even remembered there names. He calles them rabbits bc thats eaiser for him to say. Its soo cute to hear him say chinchilla though.

He didn't really subjest a new cage....He was thinking about a dog cage for them.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #5 on: May 06, 2009, 11:37:31 AM »

Oh...was he using some sort of ill humor then? A dog cage...his dislike of the chins...and his comment about them not coming when called...made me wonder...

Hang in there...Your dad sounds a lot like my FIL...other than my FIL likes the chinchillas...but personalities they run neck and neck...

Could this stem from knowing his little girl is moving out...some sort of loss that you've grown up. Or has it always been like this?
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #6 on: May 06, 2009, 11:40:10 AM »

My dad doesn't know yet that i'm moving out. I'm telling him soon though. He's pretty much always been like that. Hes hard headed
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #7 on: May 06, 2009, 11:41:35 AM »

Oh...well he definately has a personality of my FIL...Good luck telling him... ;) Maybe invite him over for dinner or something...once your settled in.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #8 on: May 06, 2009, 11:46:00 AM »

Thanks, I'll need it   ;) I think i'll take him out to lunch and tell him then.  ANd I will. I"m sure he'd enjoy that.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #9 on: May 06, 2009, 11:53:12 AM »

Yeah...public may keep his tongue in check. I would wait until you enjoyed your meal...or at least let him enjoy his...for he may not want to eat after he finds out.

I'm afraid to ask if he likes this boyfriend...I mean...the man doesn't love chins...And what's not to love!
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #10 on: May 06, 2009, 12:16:18 PM »

Lol, true.. Yeah i'll wait till like halfway through lunch or something. If you have pointers, feel free to tell me.

I belive he does. When he ment him for the first time we went out to dinner with him and my mom and he seemed intresterd in his work. I think thats a good sign. My boyfriend, Dan is a kicten manager at a bar  :)
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #11 on: May 06, 2009, 01:38:34 PM »

Pointers...gee I recall taking my in-laws out to dinner when we broke the news we were getting married the same summer that their other son was. My father in law refused to take his eyes off the tv that was there. [sports bar]

I think...you've got it covered...Um-mm your 24 yrs. old...Other than empty nest syndrome...and losing his baby girl...I think you'll take care of it just fine. ::nod::
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #12 on: May 06, 2009, 02:29:46 PM »

 :) Thanks! I hope so.

Doesn't sound like your father in-law was ready to hear that news yet.
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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #13 on: May 07, 2009, 07:11:33 AM »

 ::silly::  Scene: Lunch in a nice public restaurant ... almost finished eating ... then: "Dad, I know you're not very fond of my chins ... but, you won't have to put up with them to much longer ... I'm moving in with my boyfriend next month ... he likes my chins."    :::grins::

Make sure you are near the exit, just encase he forgets he's in public.   ::)

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Re: My dad not liking my chins
« Reply #14 on: May 08, 2009, 09:29:48 AM »

 :2funny: Thanks Jo Ann, I will keep that in mind.
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