Yes she is a male. They have been buddies for a long time now. My female Kabe has never bred before. So maybe a miscarriage seems right for a first time, but I don't know much about breeding. The night before I found this blob in the mid morning she was out of her cage running around in her ball for a few hours. She has never let the male breed, when he tries she yells at him and then its over, and then they go back to their normal play and hanging out.